(Not So New) New Year Resolutions

Two posts within a week? I sense a sabbatical coming up…

No, I joke (I think). I promised to get this show back on the road and that’s exactly what I’m planning to do. And speaking of planning, how many of you made New Year resolutions this year? I think the middle of February is about the right time for me to make mine, no?

Lists and Notebooks

As you might have guessed, I’m not big on making New Year resolutions. I recall making them one year, cause you lost some serious cool points if you didn’t at least pretend that you’d spent the next year of your life exercising more and eating healthier.

But those resolutions were quickly followed by the other popular trend – the one where you give up on your dreams of a toned stomach and go back to eating a family size pack of Doritos while binge watching an entire season of your favourite show. Fortunately, that’s out of the way by the 2nd of January and you can spend the rest of the year being your true self. That was probably one of your resolutions anyway!

“So why now?” I hear you ask.

Well, I’m a firm believer that you don’t need to wait until a certain time of the year to remake yourself, to improve, or vow to do better – so the real question is why the heck not?

Here are 5 of the things I’m hoping to achieve (or begin to work on) this year:

To-do list

1. Focus on me & stop trying to please everyone else

This is a biggie. I briefly mentioned this in my last post when talking about getting my helix piercing, but this point is about a lot more than just a little piercing or two.

Trying to please everyone around you is a sign of insecurity and not knowing who you are or want to be; it’s the doubt that whatever you do or whoever you choose to be will be judged by others. It’s also a sign of caring more about others than you do about yourself. Neither of which are overly healthy states of mind to harbour.

I want to live a life I love. I want to hold myself accountable for all the good and bad things that happen in my life and know that everything I’ve done has always been my choice – a choice that wasn’t influenced or enforced by others, and the benefits (or downfalls) of which are completely my own.

 

2. Be more social

When you’ve attended 7 different schools and lived in over 20 different places before you’ve even turned 25, you learn that getting attached to people is not in your best interest. When the only relationships you’re really interested in are the deep and meaningful kind, you decide stop trying to make friends altogether. Because not having friends is easier than thinking you can rely on someone but being proven wrong.

I’ve recently started to work harder on establishing and maintaining new, casual friendships and I’m making great progress. It sounds ridiculous to even consider this as an achievement (or something that requires a conscious effort) when so many people can do it with their eyes closed, but casual relationships are not my forte. But I’m well on my way!

 

3. Take more chances

When I consider my life regrets, the vast majority of them arise from situations I didn’t appreciate fully or opportunities I didn’t pursue at all. I guess it’s true what they say – you regret the things you didn’t do more than those you failed at.

Ironically, failure is in the top 3 of my biggest fears, and while I might know that I should take more chances, actually doing it is a whole other story. But a life made up of regrets is not the best I’m capable of and it’s not a life I’m willing to settle for.

 

4. Work on my creativity

As evident by my lack of activity on this corner of the internet, creativity has been down in the dumps lately. Unfortunately, it seems that taking a little time out does not in fact result in a flood of new ideas and motivation. Instead, I find that the longer I spend away from creative outlets, the less creativity I have and the harder it is to jump back in.

So the logical step seems to be – don’t stop being creative. Push yourself to do a small creative task every day to keep the momentum going and the creative juices flowing. That sounds disgusting… But you catch my drift, I’m sure.

To do this, I’ve decided to start a new journal/sketchbook. Yes, another one – don’t judge me. I don’t exactly have a great track record of sticking to a single journal, and often find bits and bobs stashed away in various notebooks, drawers and boxes, but it’d be nice to keep everything in one place. So the general idea is to draw, scribble, write or design something new every day – something that doesn’t have to be perfect and doesn’t need to live up to anyone’s expectations. Less pressure and no outside judgement. Recipe for success.

 

5. Stop letting my fears consume me

Fear is natural. In an evolutionary sense, a sense of fear is probably the reason why humans are still on this earth. But fear should not be an all-encompassing and all-consuming part of your life that prevents you from learning a new skill, talking to someone you admire, or driving down to your local supermarket without make-up on. That’s not natural and it sure as heck isn’t healthy.

And yet somehow, that’s a situation I’m far too familiar with. But, no more. Enough is enough. Let’s get this show on the road…

 

Do you make resolutions at New Year? And more importantly, how well do you do at seeing them through?