A Guide to Living With Others

Whether you’re just about to take off into the world or are already living with other flatmates, here’s a guide to living with others (also known as being a decent human being) to help you be a tolerable house-mate.

A Guide To Living With Others

BE TIDY

Remember that the house/flat you’re living in is shared with other people who do not deserve to sit amongst your empty crisp packets and old cups of tea, but worst of all, they do not deserve to get their socks wet on the bathroom floor. If you’re the flatmate that leaves puddles of water after using the shower…Well I’m no expert, but I’m pretty sure you’re going to hell.

If you have communal dishes (especially if you don’t have a lot of them), wash them straight after use. There is absolutely no reason why your flatmate should have to wash your dishes in order to make their own food. And even if you don’t share dishes, don’t be a pain and clutter up the sink – it only makes it harder for others to do their dishes and results in a Mount Everest of soggy, mouldy leftovers. Unless you’re into that. In which case, keep going. You’re doing great! *encouraging cheer with a hint of sarcasm*

CONTRIBUTE

You know that washing up liquid that sits on the corner of the sink? That toilet paper that is always in the bathroom? Those bin bags that keep you from having to keep the rubbish in your hands or leave the house every 5 minutes? Yeah, those things don’t appear from nowhere and are costing someone in the house a pretty penny. If you use it, help to restock it. Ideally, before it runs out; not after.

While we’re at it, the tea-towels don’t wash themselves, either. 

BE CONSIDERATE

Things that are okay: bringing a friend for a cup of tea or dinner, listening to music in the middle of the day, dancing around in your room…

Things that are absolutely not okay, ever: bringing back strangers every other night and letting them stay in communal areas, blasting music at 2 o’clock in the morning (I mean seriously, have you not heard of headphones?), deciding that the Feng Shui is simply not right and you have to move your furniture around while others sleep. 

RESPECT THE BOUNDARIES

Despite sharing a flat (and maybe even dishes), some boundaries remain and should not be broken. Whether you’re simply curious or giving a house tour, you do not go into other people’s rooms; you don’t use up their expensive bath bombs or shower products; you do not use their towels (or don’t complain when they put itching powder on it to catch you out!) That’s on you.


COMMUNICATE

By this I of course mean communicate your problems… Far be it for me to encourage people to talk to other flatmates. Bleh. All that would achieve is them asking to borrow more of your stuff. Avoid at all costs.

Passive aggressiveness is not only okay, it’s encouraged. Not only will it reinforce your idea of being right, but it will also avoid conflict.*


*that may just be my preferred coping mechanism, and is not an official recommendation .

P.s. Take this post with a pinch of salt and realise the parts that have been written humorously. 

Have you had to live with annoying flatmates?

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  • You know, this works with living your parents too!! Lol

    If I could reach the counters, sink, stove, and be trustful enough to lift heavy pots and pans, aka anything made of glass I'd make my meals every other day/night!! πŸ™‚

    Meg(z)han.

  • I guess it could apply to living with your parents too, but unless you pay rent, your parents have these "perks" that normal flatmates wouldn't. Parents get to make the rules, whereas flatmates need to have equality. Otherwise – chaos! (and passive aggressiveness)