Hello my lovelies!
What I really wanted to do today was post a happy post because of the great day I was having. Instead, I have just spent the last three hours reading every piece of information available about the recent sexual assault accusations within the YouTube community, and quite honestly, I couldn’t just leave it no matter how hard I tried.
I myself, am a part of the YouTube community, and I keep up to date with my favourite YouTubers. So I did notice when a few weeks ago, everyone suddenly started discussing consent – most of the videos being very, very good and educational – however, I was completely unaware of the situation at the time, so I didn’t think too much of it. Education is just something YouTube does.
I am now finding myself feeling infuriated, upset, empathetic towards the victims, and if I’m being honest – downright betrayed. Firstly, I want to point out that as much as I wish they weren’t, the allegations towards the famous YouTubers that I am referring to, are completely true – the accused have admitted to them. However, if any new names come up, be careful. I have already seen fake posts regarding Tyler Oakley, Dan Howell and Phil Lester, which have luckily been taken down by the “joking” authors.
As someone who liked and supported these people’s work, I feel betrayed. I looked up to them, I trusted their information, and I supported their content. And while all of this has no effect on the quality of their music, or whatever it is that they did, I can no longer support them because I don’t respect most of them as human beings. Some of the situations that are being discussed – while they remain a shitty thing to do – are not that serious. Others, are beyond sickening. And worst of all, most of these people have admitted to doing wrong, yet have issued no apologies – and these are incidentally the people that I no longer respect (not saying that an apology would fix anything, but c’mon.)
On the other hand, while many people are handling this perfectly, others still don’t seem to get it. I have seen much too many comments saying “he should be applauded for owning up to it…” EXCUSE ME? That’s not something they either earned, nor are entitled to, and it’s sure as hell not something you’d say for a stranger – so why is it different for someone with an internet following?
But at the end of the day, I’m glad people are finally talking about this; I’m so proud of everyone who came forward with their stories – anonymously or not; and I think this is also a great lesson to the viewers of any YouTuber.
It’s so easy to watch them grow on YouTube and assume you know everything about their life; trust them; admire them. But you have to remember that what you see, is what they let you see; you see 5 minutes of their week, but you have no idea what they do with the other 10,075 minutes that they don’t share with you. This in no way means that you can’t trust any of them, or that they will all betray your trust, but you do have to remember that you don’t know them. Not from 5 or 10 minutes a week. And you sure as hell should not idolise them because of what you see in their videos. Yes, most of them are good people – but they’re not superhuman. And once they do something to fall off the pedestal you put them on, and continue falling below the standard, you cannot keep making excuses for them. They’re normal people who are very good at what they do. Treat them as such.
Anyway, I’m sorry for such a raw post. I honestly can’t structure or word this in a sophisticated manner, but it was too big a deal for me to let slip. If any of you are interested, but have no idea what’s going on in regard to what I have just spoken about, you really need to read and watch everything to get the full picture, but this is a good start: right here. If you’re a regular at YouTube, I highly suggest you have a look.
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